Top 15 Lessons for Life
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. Ask yourself “will this matter a year from now?” If the answer is no then move on.
- You are responsible to everyone, but you’re responsible for yourself. Nobody else is going to find success for you, and nobody else is going to instill happiness into you from the outside. That’s on you.
- You can always get more money, you can never get more time. Don’t cut your life so short that you miss out on experiences. Go travel. Go sperlunking. Go to that music festival you say you’ll find time to go to next year. Book a ticket a year in advance and don’t look back.
- Blur the lines between work and play. Make everything you do into a game. Mix targets/end goals with rewards/incentives/goldstars.
- You can’t force others to like you and you can’t force others to change their opinion. Just be true to your own self and your own conscience, the rest is secondary.
- You are your word. And you are your actions, more than your words. Stick to your commitments and values. Results are measured in time and distance. While words are empty and meaningless without action. Never make excuses, stop blaming others, and own up to your mistakes.
- See problems as challenges. A problem is viewed as a drawback or a struggle while a challenge is an opportunity, a dare. View obstacles as challenges and take it on one step at a time.
- Make sure you’re always learning something new. We live in a Googable world. We have access to public libraries. We have smart phones. Be curious enough to learn and absorb info from everywhere around you. Take up a new activity, explore a hidden alley, read a new book.
- Take care of your health when you’re young and keep going when you’re old. It’ll be easier down the road when you’re older. I don’t care if you work a 9-6 job, there’s always time during the day to respect your body.
- Be Positive. Appreciate everything and everyone around you. There are things you cannot change or are beyond your control. Instead of focusing on how unfair life is, be at peace with yourself and appreciate where you are and how far you’ve come and how bright the future is.
- Develop a sense of wonder and awe. This will keep you young. Open your mouth in awe. “The only cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity/
- Nothing is permanent or eternal. Not your clothes. Your car. Your fancy watch. Not even your relationships. Your possessions shouldn’t possess you or define who you are.
- Choose your friends well. Let friendship be based on mutual respect and trust. While common interests are a good go-to, there’s nothing wrong with branching out of your comfort zone and intertwine with different social circles. Surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to acheive your goals. Also, do not be afraid to have critics. Embrace those who are blunt and have no filter.
- Realize that nobody cares, and if they do, you shouldn’t care that they care. Got a new car? Went on an exotic vacation? Nobody cares. You’ll get some gawkers for a couple of weeks—they don’t care. They’re curious. Don’t base your happiness on people caring, because they won’t. And if they do, they either want your stuff or hate you for it.
- Always give more than is required of you. You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return. When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for everyone involved.