How to be “Great”
I’ve been positively gleaming or glowing these past few days.
The conversation usually starts off as something like this
A: How are you doing?
B: Great, just GREAT!
I can’t even articulate how great it has been which is why I have a goofy smile on my face all of the time.
So I’m going to try this…
What does “great” even mean?
For me, being great or capable of “greatness” means you’ve overcome being “small”
To be great means that instead of asking for “fish”, you’ve requested “fishing”
if I request you to teach me “fishing” I have the power to create much more, albeit potential of failure/rejection/shame.
To be great, means you’ve achieved a breakthrough in performance..whether that be getting recognition/promotion at your job, or finally coming to terms with your sexuality, or being able to run 5 miles without stopping. You’ve come a long way and even when there is nobody on the other end of the finish line to say “hey man, you’re awesome.” You know it in yourself that you’ve achieved something “great.”
I’m in the process of mastering my life to achieve “Greatness” and here is my outline.
1. Making a difference and contribution
- To be powerful, means you have the ability to inspire “groups”
- By starting with the individual, you can conquer anything in the world.
- Take the time to think of what matters to you in your community and dedicate some time to just think of what YOU can do to make a difference, small steps = big changes
- INDIVIDUAL (alter one’s feelings/emotions) -> RELATIONSHIP -> FAMILY -> GROUPS -> COMMUNITY -> ORGANIZATION -> SOCIETY -> WORLD
2. Mastering reality
- Being with something exactly the way it is instead of adding/deleting from a statement and constructing a story based on assumptions- adding meaning to nothing.
- To separate your thoughts, feelings, intuition from what’s real in front of you : What’s happening versus the story
- To be present instead of letting the past determine your future
3. Mastering identity and ultimately the self
- As “identity” you can either be part of something or not something. As “self” you are the space in which it all shows up. You are who you show up to other people and your actions are correlated with what is occurring for you…directly influencing how you occur for yourself in dealing with those situations
- Be unreasonable – Being reasonable means being controlled by your reasons. You may feel compelled to find reasons before you can do something. Being UNreasonable means doing something simply because you are doing it, taking responsibility for it, and enjoying it as it is.
- Be vocal- Ask and you shall receive, knock and the door will open. Just say it/do it and know that whatever the outcome, its better than just sitting around and waiting for “something”
- Be expressive – To communicate that you are happy instead of saying “I am happy” by self expression is a skill. Perform to your hearts intent without fear of judgment.
Ending with a quote:
“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he is always doing both.” – Lawrence Persall Jacks
Live, love, learn,